Have you ever fallen in love with a fictive character?
I will admit – I HAVE. .. several times during my childhood. And maybe during my adulthood too, when I think about it.
I wonder how it is possible. Is it normal? Is it abnormal? Can it hurt anybody? Is it some kind of escape from reality or some kind of disability to differ reality from fantasy.
I can just speak for myself. I KNEW that the characters I fell in love with was nothing else but cartoon-characters. But I couldn’t help that I felt something for them, something strong; something I would like to call attraction and maybe love.
I fantasize a lot and have always done so. I actually think it’s a good thing to nurture our imagination. To some point at least. But if it hinders us from living a functional life and gives us problems to separate what’s real or not – then it might be wrong? I can’t say I have that problem myself. I do function in reality. I have a social life, a job and wouldn’t call myself a weirdo. Not in a bad way anyway. ^_- Some people call me childish though. I rather use to say that I have a rich inner life. ^_- And I’m happy for it.
It seems to be pretty common with some kind of extreme fascination for fantasies in Japan. I mean, there must be a reason behind all hentai and genres like yaoi. I think a lot of people are lonely, and hence searches some kind of relationship with fictional characters. Not always because of that, but maybe sometimes. These people are sometimes called otakus, hikimoris… and so on. And these people are usually looked-down on by “normal” people.
Is it wrong? Does it increase their gap between themselves and what we normally call “reality”?
What do you think?
When I played the “Prince of Percia”-triology on PS2 for some years ago, I actually fell in love with the prince a little bit. I never felt that the prince I played and controlled was “me”. I rather felt that we were a team… and he was handsome, brave and cool. My hero. We fought together, met challenges together… slaughtered monsters, solved tricky riddles… yeah, we spend a LOT of time together and the longer I played, the stronger got my connection – and hence my relation – to the prince. I think I could call it some kind of love.
When it all was over – when I had played through all the games, I watched the last credit-list, staring like paralyzed. I couldn’t get it was all over. I had three hours left until I had to go to school, (it was in the middle of the night). I didn’t want to lose him, so like a robot, I started to play the game from the start again.
For a while anyway, until I realized that I acted like a nutcase. ^^
When I hear stories about people who marries their pillowcases or are deeply in love with manga-characters – one part of me understand them. And I don’t judge them. Maybe I feel a bit sad for them, in case their love might be a result of loneliness. But does it have to be so? Who know?
And who says that love and a relationship with another human being necessarily have to be better than affection for a fictive one?
I dedicate this post to people who have found their love in fictive characters. What do you think when you see this. Are they pathetic? Insane? Lonely?
Birthday celebration with fictive lovemates:
Have YOU ever fallen in love with a fictive character…?